HOW TO GET A DATE WITH ANYONE

Wanta know the secrets to getting a date with anyone ? Watch this video by "How To" and get some great tips !

Now That You've Picked Your Site - Start Searching !

Now that you've picked your site, have your profile up you can start searching  and have some fun ! Here are some ways to search strategicly and dignified :

1.  Passively:  If you have a good profile and answered the questioneer honestly you can sit back and relax and let the other person come to you. Somewhat of a "If I build it they will come" approach.That doesn't mean you have to. If you are of a more passive type or feel awkard making the first move, thats ok - but what if you are not getting results? Try looking at your profile again. Open up your geographic location, rexamine your physical requirements, widen your requirements and "hone" them in later. Also take another look at your profile and make sure it doesn't shout out or even resemble anything of neediness, loneliness, partner bashing, lifetime committments. Re-examine your choice of pictures and get an opinion from a friend.

2. .  Computer Match:On most dating sites the computer will take your information and "suggest" parters for you. Many times people "shun" them because they don't appear to be the "type". Many of my friends, including myself have had great success with computer matches. After all there might be something to an electronic fix up if it has worked for so many of us - Give it a try.

3.  Get Busy Searching  Break out of your shell and start searching.  It can be fun reading others profiles and finding your match.  Get involved ! Send a note or "wink" (flirting) to someone who might be interesting to you. I know I spent over 3 weeks emailing someone who I eventually dated for several
years and durine the pre-dating days of emailing and getting to know each other were romantic and exciting. Think about it, you have something to look forward to and something new to learn about someone who you haven't even met yet - They might even put a smile on your face.

If you want to optimize your opportunities, use all these strageties. Just remember to have fun and enjoy yourself during your search. Be honest and you will find your match in no time ! Come back Next time for .........Stages of our Seach and Happy Searching ~!

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Picking the Right Online Dating Site Part 2

Most sites will provide free browsing and that will be a good way to get a sense of what type of men and women are on the site. Many times in order to browse you will be asked to input your profile. Go ahead and don't worry this will give you good practice on preparing a profile, in fact you may be able to perfect your profile as you go along. When I first started using an online dating service I stayed with one site as many people do, but as you get confortable with the process, you should explore other sites and sign up with multiple sites in order to increase your chances of meeting Mr. or Mrs Right.


Second  Favorites

Here are a few of my favorite sites:

Christian Cafe:  Christian Cafe is focused on all Christian, all single.  They will allow you to browse for free and offer free trials.  They have a "chat" feature and offer a "quick match" feature.




Christian Dating Service


Catholic Match.com  Started in 1999,  this site had about 500,000 members and focus on a relationship based environnment place where marriage minded catholics can meet and talk about their faith and family aspirations.  Benefits of this site include :

• Pofile tools highlight faith and family, while assisting in determining common or complementary interests and traits
• Throgh their exclusive Temperament Test & Quiztique™,  members get to know themselves and a potential spouse more deeply than at other sites

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Picking the Right Online Dating Site Part 1

Internet dating has reshaped relationships of today.  There are thousands of online dating sites poping up on the internet daily.  So how do you pick the right site for you ?  You can start with the First Favoites which include the  best known,  most reputable sites with over one milling members.  The Second Favoites include those with smailler but distinctive membership base.  Once you have experimented with recommended sites either from this blog or your friends, you can do your own search and also find out about that site by typing in "complaints about (the name of the site) to find out more about the reputation of the site.

In The Beginning

Most sites will provide free browsing and that will be a good way to get a sense of what type of men and women are on the site.   Many times in order to browse you will be asked to input your profile.  Go ahead and don't worry this will give you good practice on preparing a profile, in fact you may be able to perfect your profile as you go along.   When I first started using an online dating service I stayed with one site as many people do, but as you get confortable with the process, you should explore other sites and sign up with multiple sites in order to increase your chances of meeting Mr. or Mrs Right.

First Favorites

Here are a few of my favorite sites :

Match.com:  Probally one of the most largest and best site.  This is the site I first started with.  They constantly update their site wth new features and have millions of members.  Here are some of the features they offer:

• Voice Greetings From Your Phone
• Match Mobile: Your profile can be transferred to your cell phone and you can connect anonymously with singles near you.
• Vidoe Greetings and Live Video
• Online Speed Matching (An online version of speed dating)
• A Free Personality Test

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Perfect Match.com   This site is easy to maneuver and is for serious minded daters looking for long term committments.  Althought somewhat newcommers to online dating they do boast over one million members.  They highlight the following features:

• Icebreakers:  If you are shy and not sure what to talk about there are two levels of ice breaker to help you out.  You can email questions such as How do you describe your best friend? 
• Personality Assesment: This assesment, called the Duet explains personality types and is an important part of matching, it also tells you which traits your partner should share and which should be different.  It summarizes your personal resluts and is a free test.  
• An Organized Profile:  Includes information on appearance, lifestyle values, likes and dislikes.  Premium members can opt for more hands-on coaching from ciounselores with a profile review and tune-up.

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Chemistry.com  A division of Match.com, offering premimun memberships based on matches after personality testing. They boast a following of 8 million and offer the following benefits:

• Free Personality Testing
• Free personalized matches with the potential to trigger chemistry
• Chemistry provids information and recommendations daily for your match’s personality type.

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Building an Online Dating Profile – Where to Start

The most important thing you will do after joining an online dating service is to set up your profile. Many times people will be overwhelmed at the process, but can be really easy if you look at if from the vantage point of being able to put your best foot forward.

A profile that is set up nicely and comes across sincere will increase your chances of finding Mr. Or Mrs Right. Here are some tips and a short video on how to make the most of your online dating profile.

1. Profile Name: Studies show that an interesting profile name draws more attention than a profile with a run-of-the-mill name. “So, how can you pick an interesting profile name? A name that has a flash of sex in it will often do more harm than good. Instead choose a spin off of your name or something you are into, say a sport, hobby or craft. Pair it with a “catchy” word such as a nickname, video game character, movie star or even favorite comic character. You may want to use somehting that describes one of your best features such as Ravishing Red Head, Blue Eyed Gent, Cute Dimples etc.


2. Photo: Studies show that having a photo vs not having one will get you noticed more often. It is not true that not having a photo will make others more curious about you, all they will do is pass you by. In addition if you put a fake looking photo up you will run the chance of getting passed by while another who posts a realistic photo is apt to get many more looks and opportunities to date. If you are not sure about a picture, enlist one of your close friends to help you out an remember always use a current picture.


3. Descriptions: Be as honest as you can, after all how would you feel if you met someone and they turned out totally different than what they had portrayed in their profile ? There simply is no benefit about lying about your height, weight or any similar details. You should not give any personal details like your cell number. This is a good opportunity to describe yourself in a positive light, studies show that you should describe your hobbies, sports, drinking and smoking habits all in an honest light.



In closing, creating an online dating profile should reflect who you really are anything else won’t allow you to find that perfect someone for you. Being honest with a flair for fun will help get more attention that any other profiles. Don’t try to make your profile too serious, think of it as if you were on a first date – wouldn’t you be light and flirtatious ? . Remember, online dating is a fun way to meet Mr. Right or Mrs. Right !

4 Reasons People Sabotage Their Dating Life

I have to admit when I first thought about online dating I was a little shy. After all when I was going to try it, it wasn’t exactly the “thing” to do. At least now there are much more online dating services to choose from and chances are many of your friends have already been online dating. If that is so, it will help to ask one of your friends to help you if you are one of the type who likes the buddy system. I remember my girlfriend asked me for help. She needed a little encouragement and needed to be shoed the “ropes” of how to get online and fill out the profile. Most of all what helped was the encouragement. She had already talked herself out of any good that could come from this type of dating that without a little one on one support, I doubt she would of taken the first step. On the other hand, many of you are independent and just need a little push and instruction that these blogs will give you. In fact you may like that fact that your family and friends do not know what you are quite up to yet. Whatever the case is please keep in mind that whatever may be hindering you, you first have to recognize it , deal with it and then move forward. Here are some typical things people let get in the way of their online dating success:

1. I am Bad with Computers or do not Own a Computer: Hey remember the phase “Where there is a will there is a way”. Well like I was telling you not only did my friend need a little encouragement, she did not own a computer, the only access she had to a computer was at work. At work she could only receive emails and not return them? Pretty tough odds you say of getting an online date ? Well not if you are willing to go the extra mile. I was her go between and she did end up meeting and dating a wonderful man for over two years! If you do not want a go between there are public computers at the library and that is always another option.

2. It’s not Romantic: Many people think this but actually this is so far from the truth. When I first went online, I was able to read many profiles which gave me an insight into the persons personality, their likes and dislikes, what they had in common with me and what was different from me. From there if I choose to correspond with them it gave me a basis to start up a conversation. I emailed for weeks on end without being board because we did have so many things in common. Once we chose to meet we already had a friendship foundation on which we could develop the relationship further. For me it was very romantic that someone was so interested in getting to know so much about me over a longer period of time than just a couple of drinks and a few dates.

3. Does it Really Work? The first time I was introduced to online dating it was through one of my older friends who had been dating online for quite a while. I was taken aback at first but then warmed up to the idea after she had told me how many wonderful men she had met. Did she ever meet any frogs? Of course she had . And no surprise, some did not even match the picture in their profile. Bottom line, like everything else in life, some people are honest and some are not. Online dating is popular for millions of people and many of them have success with online dating.

4. Is it Safe? For many people one of the first things they ask is if online dating is safe. Have you ever thought to yourself how safe is meeting someone in a bar, restaurant, golf course, playing tennis? The fact is that when we meet a stranger we really don’t know much about that person until we slowly get to know them. As we do in any other circumstance, we should always use our best judgment when first getting to know someone. We will talk more about this at a later time.

There are probably many more things people have that hinder them from taking that first step. The important thing to know is to first realize that you are hindering yourself, acknowledge what you are doing, find out why you are sabotaging yourself, strife to overcome these obstacles, and hopefully you will choose to move forward – Happy dating !

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11. Find a nearby bed-and-breakfast. Spend the night someplace where someone else makes the bed and cooks breakfast 

Finding the Perfect Mate of My Desire

Exercise 4: Now that you have found your likes and dislikes in a mate, the last step is to define your desires and then put it all together. Think about the following an make a wide list(at least 8-10 ) in each category then dwindle your list down to the top 10 desires that are important to you. Category 1: Physical

Category 2: Entertainment

Category 3: Intellectual Pursuits

Category 4: Leisure

Category 5: Living Habits

Category 6: Social

This exercise will help you get to your core values and also help you not be too picky at the same time, risking eliminating a perfect partner for you.

Put it All Together

Take your answers from each exercise # 1-4 (exercises 1-3, posted March 14, 2010 ) and make a list of your top 10 answers for each exercise (eliminating exercise # 3, just be aware to watch out for this type) . You should have a sheet with the following headings, numbered 1 – 10 : Evaluating Them to Build a Profile . Must Have- Back to Basics, Finding the Perfect Mate of My Desire . Next look at your choices and take a clean piece of paper to write out your description : I am looking for a mate who…… and who likes to…… Now, it may have seemed like a lot of work to go through these exercises, but let me ask you – how much work has it been this far to go through all those dates that just weren’t right for you ? Let me hear from you !

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10. A bar, beers and darts. Anyone up for some healthy competition? 

What Do you Want in A Mate ???

For some we absolutely know what we want in a mate, others not so sure, but one thing is for sure: most people know what they don’t want. By consciously knowing what you don’t want and what you do want or how particular traits make you feel, you will have more success in obtaining that perfect mate for you.
After all, dating is just that, a process by which we pick and choose people to see who will be a perfect match for us. Whatever your desire, casual relationship, a committed long term relationship or something in between there is someone out there who shares your same desire and is looking for you. These exercises will help you hone in on your desires and what you really are willing to share your life with.

Exercise 1: Using the qualities you found from the same exercise you did in “Evaluating Yourself to Build a Profile “ (March 11, 2010) reflect on several relationships so you have a diverse group of men / women to compare to. You may include non romantic male/ female  relationships (i.e. father, brother co-worker etc)

Exercise 2: Think about 2-4 relationships that didn’t go well and answer the following questions:

a. I felt ________(unhappy, sad, mad etc) with ______because he/she was (a cheat, inconsiderate etc)

b. These personality types/characteristics spell trouble for me:

c. I have learned the following from the above mistakes:

Exercise 3: Make a “Must Have- Back to Basics” list. Make a list of the 10 basic must haves in your perfect relationship. Most of us have basic wants are in a relationship and most studies show that the more in common we have with our significant other the better we withstand the turbulent times. Things like common religions, education and race. There are other basics you might want to include like, smoking, drinking, jobs, pets, families. children, etc. I’m not saying there aren’t exceptions to the “basics” list and that you will get them all, but again it does help to recognize what these wants are.

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9. Map out a long bike ride through a local park. 72

Evaluating Yourself to Build a Profile

So now that you have determined that you are ready, the next step is to evaluate yourself so you can build a profile on a dating site of your choice. What ??? How do I talk about myself you say ? I haven’t even told anyone I am going to use an online dating service. Well the best was is to start reflecting back on relationships you have had. Think about the good times and the not so good times. In doing so you should come up with about 20 to 30 characteristics about you that you can rate on a scale of 1 – 10. One being the weakest and 10 being the strongest.

As you start to think back, think about various things you enjoyed in your relationship, t-things you did well and things you didn’t, perhaps reflect on things you would change and things you did perfectly! All these will give you an insight into your personality such as if you are creative, adventurous, accepting, cheerful, empathetic, energetic, friendly trustworthy, reliable, spirtural, talented and many other traits that can describe you. Now is a good time to take stock of yourself. Consider this a good time to evaluate learn and grow. Take the time you need for yourself, don’t shortchange YOU !

Once you have got your list together rate yourself. Start thinking about a profile (which we will talk about later) and what things if any you would like to improve upon (let’s face it, we can all get better). Take time out to work on the characteristics that you scored low on. Your new mate is just around the corner and will appreciate you just as much as you appreciate yourself !

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8. Stop at a fancy bakery and pick out a treat each — for each other. 

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7. Head to an ice skating rink and strap on skates for some chilly  fun 

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6. Make yourselves the biggest, craziest ice cream sundae ever

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                    5. Bring home your favorite fast food, but serve it on your best china

What exactly is being Ready ? part 2

One author describes it like this

R: Recovered from the past, hopeful about the future
E: Engaged in activities that make you fun and interesting to be with
A: Accepting attitude toward men / women
D: Destined for love because you believe you can shape your destiny
Y: Yearning to connect and communicate with a loving and nurturing partner who
     respects your values, shares ;your interests and wants a close relationship

So lets take a look:

Destined for Love: Some people are very proactive about their careers but in the relationship department they just take the attitude “if it’s meant to be it will be”. While it is true some of the time that people do find each other by chance, more often than not, great relationships have been built on the same principals that they build their careers on: Persistence, preparation and networking. The computer can be your best friend when it comes to online dating. Don’t let your past preconceived notions hold you back from a prospect of happiness. You do have the courage and strength to shape your future. Take the first step.

Yearning to Connect: The most basic need we humans have is to feel loved and to give love. We all show it in different ways. It may be the feeling of mutual respect, finding someone we can talk to easily, someone we who is happy with themselves and therefore we can make happy just by being ourselves as well. We might love to share a meal that is delightful or delight in seeing a newborn chick. It might be a walk in the park, a kiss goodbye in the morning, a hug a night. What ever the feeling of the connection is there is one thing for sure, if your yearning to connect you are ready to make this relationship happen for you – one that could last a lifetime, one filled with fun and excitement with intimacy with a loving partner.

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                          4.   Make a mixed tape or CD to call "your sound tracks"

        

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What exactly is being Ready ? part 1

One author describes it like this :

R: Recovered from the past, hopeful about the future
E: Engaged in activities that make you fun and interesting to be with
A: Accepting attitude toward men / women
D: Destined for love because you believe you can shape your destiny
Y: Yearning to connect and communicate with a loving and nurturing partner who
     respects your values, shares ;your interests and wants a close relationship

So lets take a look:

Recovered from the past:  Lets face it, if you still have feelings toward your former partner, anything you do will not feel right. In addition if you are angry, hurt, disappointed about your past relationship you are not really opened up for a new one. Try and get past these feelings by renewing the “you” in yourself. Get to know yourself again and begin to like who you are. Learn from your past and get involved in activities that will help you get past the hurt stage. Once you can do this you will be in a much better place to “receive” the person who is perfect for you.

Engage in Activities: Not only should you engage in activities, you should try something new ! There is no better time than the present to explore new interests. This will make you interesting and you will have more things to talk about. Whenever we are learning and into new things, it tends to keep us youthful and “full of life”. Consider things that you have an interest in that you did not have the time to do or your previous partner did not have an interest to do with you. Take up a cooking class, aerobics, a new sport, a new language, start going to places you haven’t been before.

Accepting Attitude toward Men/Women:   Just because you have had a partner for most of your life doesn’t necessarily mean that you have an accepting attitude toward the opposite sex. Examine your thoughts and perceptions to see exactly where you stand. Do you often laugh at stereo typical jokes that downgrade men and women? Have you felt envious of your partner when they relax while you are doing chores? What are the “messages” you typically give yourself about the opposite sex ? Take some time to really think about your emotions and feelings about the opposite sex and see where you may want to improve your thinking as it could be reflective on your actions.  

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                                   3. Take turns singing cheesy out-of-tune ballads at 

                                       karaoke.oddcast.com or free karaoke.com

Are You Ready for A Relationship ?

How do you know if you are ready for a relationship or not ? Many of us are very aware of our emotions and what it takes to be in a relationship and at times hold back for a while until we are “ready” Perhaps we are having a series of stresses in our lives that starting a new relationship would just “add” to the stress. It just isn’t the right emotional time to be in a relationship. For others, it is not as easily determined. For those of you, take this short quiz to see where you stand: Answer True or False to each question.

1. Shopping and dining at a good restaurants are two of my favorite activities.

2. I can take or leave sex.

3. If I’m meant to be in a relationship I will be otherwise I am meant to be alone.

4. I’m much happier with a man /woman by my side to make me happy.

5. I don’t really know why I’m bothering to look for a life partner, it always turns out badly.

6. I believe I can determine the outcome of my future

7. An intimate and loving relationship is very important to me.

8. I’m an interesting and fun person to be with.

9. Men/Women are a lot of fun to be with

10. My past relationships, have taught me many positive things which I can bring to a new relationship.



If you answered “False” to questions 1-5 and “True” to questions 6-10 you are ready for a relationship. If you missed a few questions, don’t despair, you may only need a small “tune up” before you’re ready to start your online dating experience.

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                    2.Try brunch and a matinee; fancy restaurants are way more affordable in the a.m.

So You Say Conventional Dating Just Might be the Way for You

Now some of you might be saying, no this isn’t me, it’s totally the opposite. My friends and family (especially my m o t h e r ) is begging me to try an online dating site, but I am just not sure. It is understandable. B We are creatures of habit and lets face it, if you haven’t been dating for a long period of time, or even if you have, but you’ve been doing it all of the conventional ways. Well let me ask you, where has the conventional way of dating gotten you thus far? But online dating is scary and foreign you say. Well, it did to me at first too. I felt awkward and didn’t really know what I was doing or didn’t know if I would be safe. The solution is to gain knowledge. Yes, who was it that said knowledge is power – very smart. It is my goal to take you on a walk so it is comfortable for you to use this wonderful too to find Mr. or Mrs. Right , in other words, who says you can’t have your cake and eat it too !

Let’s see if I can zero in on some of your concerns, maybe you have some of the same ones I did :

1. It’s Not Safe ! Safety in a large part comes from within and by using your
wits and instinct. I will be writing specifically about online dating safety and how to
spot the liars, and cheats along with how to keep yourself safe. But as
conventional dating, you do have to take precaution into your own hands.

2. It’s not romantic ! Through emails and web profiles men and women are
more willing now to write about their inner-most feelings online since the 18th
century! If knowing what truly moves a person is and what their inner-most
dreams, desires and thoughts are isn’t romantic, I couldn’t tell you what is

3. Men my age go for much younger women ! It’s true some do, and even now
some women go for much younger men. The fact of the matter is MOST men
and women marry within 3 years of their own age group. So if it’s a long term
commitment your wanting – you’re in luck !  There are millons of singles looking for you
online.

4. I’m set in my ways, too picky, not flexible enough etc. etc. As a rule humans crave for company. We want to socialize, laugh, share our thoughts and have a good time with family and friends. It’s a proven fact that people in relationships live a healthier and more successful life. It’s been my experience when the right partner came around, all the typical excuses my single friends had went out the window and they started to enjoy life !   Many of my friends found their life partner on an online dating site, you may also find your life partner there too !

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                           1.  Dinner and some stargazing at the planetarium's evening show

YOU'RE GOING TO DO WHAT ?

I can relate when your friends and family might ask you "You're going to do what ???" after you have happily announce you are going online to start dating again. You have mustered up the courage, wanted to try to be in the new millennium and are tired of the bars. Now you have to listen to all the questions. Is it safe ? You're not going to really meet them are you ? What if there picture doesn't match how they really look. Will you make sure you call me when you get there and get home? It almost makes you feel like internet dating is degrading and you are doing something terrible. The fact of the matter is those same questions could be asked of someone you meet out in public or in a nightclub; it just has been a more acceptable way, until now to meet available singles.

The next time you get questioned about your new endeavor of dating you can confidently reply that online dating has many more advantages over conventional dating for the following reasons:

·Online Dating offers more choices: there are millions of singles seeking partners on
the internet
·Provides better choices by searching for individuals who meet your criteria by age,
interests, values and background .
·Online Dating reaches across boundaries. You are not bound by your community
or state.
· Takes away some of the “guess work” about their motives. Since candidates usually
state in their profiles what type of relationship they are looking for (i.e. casual, dating,
long term commitment etc) you are more in control of what “type” of relationship you
are ready to have.

So go ahead, move forward with that dating site, let your mother or friend know that it is perfectly safe and acceptable, and most of all have a great time!