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Wednesday, May 12, 2010

Now That You've Picked Your Site - Start Searching !

Now that you've picked your site, have your profile up you can start searching  and have some fun ! Here are some ways to search strategicly and dignified :

1.  Passively:  If you have a good profile and answered the questioneer honestly you can sit back and relax and let the other person come to you. Somewhat of a "If I build it they will come" approach.That doesn't mean you have to. If you are of a more passive type or feel awkard making the first move, thats ok - but what if you are not getting results? Try looking at your profile again. Open up your geographic location, rexamine your physical requirements, widen your requirements and "hone" them in later. Also take another look at your profile and make sure it doesn't shout out or even resemble anything of neediness, loneliness, partner bashing, lifetime committments. Re-examine your choice of pictures and get an opinion from a friend.

2. .  Computer Match:On most dating sites the computer will take your information and "suggest" parters for you. Many times people "shun" them because they don't appear to be the "type". Many of my friends, including myself have had great success with computer matches. After all there might be something to an electronic fix up if it has worked for so many of us - Give it a try.

3.  Get Busy Searching  Break out of your shell and start searching.  It can be fun reading others profiles and finding your match.  Get involved ! Send a note or "wink" (flirting) to someone who might be interesting to you. I know I spent over 3 weeks emailing someone who I eventually dated for several
years and durine the pre-dating days of emailing and getting to know each other were romantic and exciting. Think about it, you have something to look forward to and something new to learn about someone who you haven't even met yet - They might even put a smile on your face.

If you want to optimize your opportunities, use all these strageties. Just remember to have fun and enjoy yourself during your search. Be honest and you will find your match in no time ! Come back Next time for .........Stages of our Seach and Happy Searching ~!

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